"That girl Syndrom"

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15.10.2024
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Itsivychan

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Freethinkerland
15.10.2024 15:34:57
Itsivychan

Am I the only one who suffers from "That girl syndrome?" 
Basically, I'm ADHD and well, lol. I'm a damn mess, scatterbrained etc, yanno the whole nine yards, yet I try to be and (and fail most days) to be "That Girl" 

What are your thoughts? what do you offer as advice? Niceness please. let's all cocreate something beautiful.

15.10.2024 15:34:57
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Agnostica
15.10.2024 15:52:38
tibby

Hey lovely,

I definitely understand that fixation on perfection. It can be overwhelming at times and manifest as suddenly picking up a rigorous skicare routine, taking walks, maintaining a strict daily routine. I'm also an adhd-er (unmedicated bc focalin made me a living dead girl) and as such, that intense fixation doesn't usually last long before you start to feel overwhelmed again. I still get waves of this and understand the struggle you might feel with feeling imperfect or lazy when things don't end up as you initially planned.

I don't have a fix-all for it, I don't believe there really is one. But if we want to be "That Girl" we must understand that she isn't made in one day AND that she doesn't *really* exist. I keep a 2 liter bottle of water on my desk so that I can see it and be reminded to drink it. Same with my medication and keys and chapstick and my phone hehe. Keep the tools you need close and in eye sight. Don't stow your skincare away in a medicine cabinet, put it on your countertop. Edit your lockscreen to include "sticky notes" of little reminders. I used to edit mine to remind me of my homework, due dates coming up, outings I have scheduled. It's a lot of little things that don't *fix* you, but they build up your environment to one that supports you.

We may never be *That Girl*, but we can be literally just a girl, however that manifests. Take care of yourself and stay safe gorgeous <3 

15.10.2024 15:52:38
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Freethinkerland
20.10.2024 18:02:28
Itsivychan

I've been thinking about you and your reply for days, it really did hit a spot that I think is very satisfying, because I know I didnt reply to it due to not having the chance,
Outside of my computer I'm a full time mother,(I'm 31) so life happens I guess lol, but you are definitely right, i know when i was first introduced to it, i spent months looking up "that girl routines" basically, in part I hyper fixated the FUCK out of it so much so i would get burnt out even before I started, which that was just from researching. But when I was ready I thrived for maybe 3 days, because at the time my sister in law was living with her brother and shes one of THOSE types who not only is narcissistic, has a poor poor me complex, and looks down on anything you do that isn't "weeb related" because it's girlie. (ew so basically I just figured out shes a pick me, thats gross lol) But she would LEGIT get so pissed that I woke up at 5am, to work out, and try to better myself while she spent months freeloading off of us etc.....

But shes a different story for a different time. 
But she was the reason I fell off of my "that girl" craze because she made me feel extremely stupid for wanting to be something I was inspired to be. 

After that I just went through so much that I didn't pick it back up again after we kicked her gross ass to the curb.

Which now it's mostly due to exhuastion, and never having time for myself anymore or ever at all, that I just keep telling myself "I'll pick it back up"   Which I feel it coming back around,,,, I honestly felt my most confident and happiest when I was trying to become "that girl" Sucks another person got in the way of that, one at that her brother (my spouse) did absolutely NOTHING to stop her. He took her side because shes his baby sister , and hes been through all of life with her, and to him i wasn't much ofa choice. I was the childhood friend he "linked up with" because it was convenient. 





 Also I think it's inspiring that you shared your piece, I cannot for the life of me remember to drink water (I eat ice, lool does that count?) I unfortunately i cant keep stuff on my desk either because even though out of sight out of mind applies, my children are a huge issue, not so much my oldest (8) it's my nonverbal, autistic twins(6) and my youngest (3) it makes it so hard, I'm currently trying to find an apron I have to have for work and I cant find it because my three younger kids misplaced it. lol 

20.10.2024 18:02:28
Life is a direct reflection of the energy we put into our own realities, 
if you thrive and work off of chaos, your life will be chaotic.
If you work and thrive off of positivity you will be handed just that.
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Agnostica
20.10.2024 19:00:41
tibby

I hope things go well and that you're able to find what works for you <3 it's a lot of trial and error along with repetition

the everything desk goes hard, but seeing as thats not an option for you, maybe a shelf or basket could be a worthy substitute :)
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20.10.2024 19:00:41
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₍^. .^₎⟆ ask me about the perks of being a senator ! (there's a ton ~)   
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Freethinkerland
22.10.2024 01:24:07
Itsivychan

i love your set up! thank you for giving me inspiration <3

22.10.2024 01:24:07
Life is a direct reflection of the energy we put into our own realities, 
if you thrive and work off of chaos, your life will be chaotic.
If you work and thrive off of positivity you will be handed just that.

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