He is just a friend...

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08.05.2025 12:31:26
brattypastelbunny

Sorry for tiny vent here, but I need to put it out somehow since I am not sure about myself...
These weeks / months I start to realize I was happier when I was single. Why? Well things are getting even more complicated day by day.
Or better said,.. Things turned from I don't wanna lose him, to I CAN'T DECIDE IF THAT GUY IS NOT BETTER MATCH THAN HIM.

I don't get how it happened but well, when I had harder period with my bf, I lowkey got a bit closer with my friend on which I had crush before I get to know with my bf - we never got together since his personality is... hard and also we found way to each other these last months.
I feel confused and guilty, because... even I love my bf so much and we got better with each other, I think more on my friend nowadays... and when I get a message I think 1st at him, not my bf.

What is going on with me? Also mine and his friends noticed chemistry between us... and I don't wanna tell my bf...
 





08.05.2025 12:31:26
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08.05.2025 12:50:08
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Thought I could throw my two cents in here, I've been with my husband for 8 years and I feel like I've learned a lot. First off - it sounds like you are going through an absolute whirlwind of emotions. That is completely human!!! Relationships are not easy, especially when you start noticing chemistry with someone else. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just means there might be something inside of you that is a bit unsettled and trying to figure some things out.
One major thing that I have learned over time is that love is not just a feeling. Love is a choice. Feelings change over time, they can be really intense one day and completely quiet the next. The decision to stay, commit, grow, and be present with someone is something that we as people actively choose every day. 
That said, your feelings are trying to tell you something. maybe it’s about what’s missing, maybe it's about what you need, or maybe it’s just a reminder to slow down and check in with yourself. You don’t need to have all the answers right now, but being honest with yourself is the first step.


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09.05.2025 14:03:42
brattypastelbunny

thank you for your sweet words.
i feel a little bit better, but it is just saddening me. i know i want my bf, but i feel like i am too young to stick in long term relationship. i feel like i didn't LIVE ENOUGH YET. he is exactly the type you wanna settle with, he is good and caring boy, but he is against idea to live in different country, what is agaist my goal and sometimes he feels boring. on the other hand that friend is toxic asshole with who i wouldn't settle down (especially because some of his opinions), but we have similar level of toxicity between us and i feel more like myself next to him. like i don't have to play sweet and cute girl, cuz i don't give a damn how does he see me.

maybe... there is too much things going on in my life and that is why i feel confused. i am just scared my bf will notice something and he will be mad, cuz i don't want him to find out i feel conflicted

09.05.2025 14:03:42
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13.05.2025 08:12:33
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it sounds to me like you're not at a point in your life where you'll be satisfied with a steady, serious relationship, which is totally fine! especially since your boyfriend doesn't align with your goal of moving to another country. ultimately it's up to you whether you're okay with being a little bored in your relationship, but secure, or if you'd rather have the freedom to explore with other people, even if they may end up being bad for you. talk to a friend who knows your relationship dynamics and ask what they think.

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