as someone who has been into depression for 2 years and got out of it, here are my advice to you guys and gals on what worked and what didn't. advice that i figured it on my own without any psychiatrist's help.
Don't go to a psychiatrist. yes, this might seem a strange thing to say but trust me, it's not worth it. the only person who can pull you out of your ditch is you. no one else. they take loads of money form you for things you have heard before and it's a 50-50 chance you might get cured or not. i went to a
psychiatrist and it was a horrible experience. going to her everyday felt like i was taking the long dead-man walk. she treated me like how a mother treats her daughter, not like how a doctor treats her patient. half of the things she said i already heard from my parents or read it somewhere online. and she took over 800$ for the entire session and when i couldn't continue the last 2 sessions she didn't even return the money for the 2 sessions remaining. and when i was done with her, i was in a worse state than before i started. but then it hit me. i got myself into this, and only i can pull myself out of it. i know it's EXTREMELY HARD to pull yourself out without anyone's help. but trust me, when you do it, you are gonna feel like a super human who cannot be taken down.
Don't blame others for your shortcomings. for a very long time i blamed others for the things i couldn't do and didn't know. for example, i blamed the lack of jobs in my area as the reason i am jobless. instead, i realized it's only my fault that i don't know how to drive a car so i could go to other places looking for jobs when my area didn't have. another example is, i used to blame my mom's cooking for making me fat. when in actuality, it was only my fault that i had no self control over what i was eating. these are one of the many reasons you spiral down into depression.
Don't blame others for your shortcomings. for a very long time i blamed others for the things i couldn't do and didn't know. for example, i blamed the lack of jobs in my area as the reason i am jobless. instead, i realized it's only my fault that i don't know how to drive a car so i could go to other places looking for jobs when my area didn't have. another example is, i used to blame my mom's cooking for making me fat. when in actuality, it was only my fault that i had no self control over what i was eating. these are one of the many reasons you spiral down into depression.
Always learn new things. knowledge is the most powerful thing a person can utilize. it can help them get out of any problem and not constantly blame themselves. don't know what a person is saying? learn a new language. can't get a job? learn marketing, learn driving, post on indeed.com. upset about your looks? change it. learn makeup. upset about your obesity? exercise, eat healthy, learn a new sport. don't know how to fix a car? there are million of tutorials online about that. i'd say, start by cleaning your room. it's one of the most famous ways to deal with depression and change something you can easily change.
Feelings aren't the top priority. i have seen this online, everywhere and myself included. people put their feelings as their shield when dealing with anything they encounter. which is why they get frustrated, emotionally broken and knocked down easily. yes your emotions are precious and personal, but sadly the world doesn't revolve around it. it revolves around people who are strong physically and mentally. don't think with your emotions and you will be happier and at peace, trust me.
Accept things you can't change. one of the many reasons we get depressed is because of things we can't change. things like death, old age, not getting that one job. it's ok. it's ok to be old. it's ok to lose someone you love. it's not your fault. it never was. think about it this way. they are at peace now. and you can still change for the better. old age doesn't mean you have to be weak. i have seen old people in their 90s who can lift heavy bags all on their own and also jog around the streets. youth is your soul and your state of mind. yes your body gets old, but it's temporary. soon we will all be healthy and young again in another life. and if you didn't get that job, it simply means it wasn't meant for you. and that something better is just around the corner if you go look for it. never give up.
Falling down is not important. What's important is what's your next step once you rise.
Accept things you can't change. one of the many reasons we get depressed is because of things we can't change. things like death, old age, not getting that one job. it's ok. it's ok to be old. it's ok to lose someone you love. it's not your fault. it never was. think about it this way. they are at peace now. and you can still change for the better. old age doesn't mean you have to be weak. i have seen old people in their 90s who can lift heavy bags all on their own and also jog around the streets. youth is your soul and your state of mind. yes your body gets old, but it's temporary. soon we will all be healthy and young again in another life. and if you didn't get that job, it simply means it wasn't meant for you. and that something better is just around the corner if you go look for it. never give up.
Falling down is not important. What's important is what's your next step once you rise.
