What do you do after a breakup?

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05.11.2022 06:16:56
Amberthehoe

Moved from "Best ways to get over a breakup?", originally posted at 2021-03-09 13:30:58
I always just act like they just died so I can get over it faster, because after awhile it really makes me completely forget them. I have adhd too tho and I’ve been smoking weed since I was 11 so I don’t have the best memory to begin with lmao. 

But no seriously the post break up ‘treat yo self’ phase is preliminary to the post break up glow up, and once you glow up from somebody you never go back because you realize you were way out of their league and it just becomes embarrassing you were ever with him.

Idc that it’s toxic but I also enjoy swiping on dating apps or going in public to get catcalled just for the sliver of male validation, just to remind myself Im still that b been that b, and all men are basically the same anyway so there’s no reason to be crying over them. A lot of them literally don’t even know how to bathe :/ ur the prize babe never forget it. 

05.11.2022 06:16:56



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05.11.2022 06:17:52
Jemmie

Moved from "Best ways to get over a breakup?", originally posted at 2022-10-22 04:25:58
I think it's different in a long term situation, but I think the no-contact rule is a good place to start. Maybe you need to be without each other's presence for a little and see what you both really need, whether it's each other or self growth! My best friend and her bf of two years broke up recently, and the best thing that helped her was space away from him and focusing on getting to know new people!

05.11.2022 06:17:52
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05.11.2022 06:18:16
space_pirate666

Moved from "Best ways to get over a breakup?", originally posted at 2022-10-23 15:33:15
take time to heal (i always do), but do not reflect too much on what happened - it will make u feel worse
sometimes i find a new hobby to fill an "empty space" so to say (recently picked up crocheting). 
also i feel like its important to get to know yourself more since the break up, i feel like it gives more time to figure what are your likes and dislikes, and just enjoy being on your own (at least it has helped me tremendously).
wish you best of luck x

05.11.2022 06:18:16
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05.11.2022 06:18:48
Angtoria

Moved from "Best ways to get over a breakup?", originally posted at 2022-10-27 06:16:55
Break ups aren’t easy, and it’s okay to cry. Cry as much as you can until you get it all out of your system (this may come in go in waves, but always let it out.), then find someone you trust to talk it out with (I’m here for you too if you don’t have anyone, although I know we don’t know each other.), focus on yourself, buy some treats like new clothes or try new fashion changes you’ve wanted to try, try to go out so you’re not sitting at home whether that’s something like a party or a little cafe, just get out there and try to have fun, and finally, when you feel ready, delete any trace left of your ex. You may have to repeat some of these steps to feel ready, but when you are it’s best to finally shed that past from your life. His clothes? Donate them. Photos of you two? Delete them. Delete any texts and unfollow your ex, and move on.
DON’T: get into a rebound relationship, the impact of that emotionally may prevent healing.
Good luck ❤️ You’ll get through this 

05.11.2022 06:18:48

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05.11.2022 06:19:13
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Moved from "Best ways to get over a breakup?", originally posted at 2022-11-01 05:51:36
cry! let urself cry

05.11.2022 06:19:13
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05.11.2022 06:19:40
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Moved from "Best ways to get over a breakup?", originally posted at 2022-11-05 06:05:23
Honestly, my biggest piece of advice is red balloons. No, not literally- when trying not to think of a white bear, you'll have an easier time thinking of red balloons. Find something you love to do that takes your mind off of it, or hang out with other people that you care about. Maybe try picking up new hobbies!

05.11.2022 06:19:40
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05.11.2022 10:56:05
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sleep with someone else lol

05.11.2022 10:56:05
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05.11.2022 23:39:39
Alicexxximbo

find yourself another man! (or women idk what your into) your ex aint shit you deserve way better

05.11.2022 23:39:39
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17.11.2022 16:30:44
hexesandhoes

this is what has personally worked for me in the past:

make a list of all their red flags, times they made you feel like garbage, etc. keep adding to it every time you think of something new, and read through it every time you miss them. in another note, make a list of all the things you do want in a relationship and the ways you wish you were treated. I found it really helps show my brain why they were wrong for me and seeing all the red flags keeps me from going back. it also helps me get excited for when I'll meet the right person who can actually give me everything I want.

if the relationship was relatively healthy but ended for a neutral reason like distance, or wanting different things - really spend time focusing on how much better for you the next relationship will be without those obstacles. you can also focus on the ways the relationship made you a better person for your future relationships. but i still recommend no contact for non-toxic breakups.

block them on social media, block their number, and remove any possible avenue of communication so they aren't able to reach out. do something kind for yourself every time you feel like texting them, or do something distracting. I usually buy myself a new game so I can immerse myself in it as a distraction. take this time to get really into a hobby or something that will occupy your mind. try not to spend too much time laying in bed with your thoughts.

delete all their pictures, any screenshots, texts, etc. if you aren't ready to do this, at least remove them from your phone and back them up to something less convenient to access like a USB or external hard drive. it's okay to go back to them once in a while and have a good cry, especially in the healing stage, but I've found it can be damaging to have to scroll past them all the time considering how much I'm on my phone.

don't bother with dating apps right out of the gate, they'll make you feel worse in my experience. but getting out of the house to spend time with friends and meet new people organically can feel really good.

ultimately, you were able to live before them and you'll be able to live after them too. it's just a matter of taking it one day at a time, and eventually the wound will heal over on it's own. the hardest part is just trying to fill the time and find moments of happiness leading up to feeling healed. take note of anything healthy that cheers you up during this time, and keep indulging in it. pour the love you had for them into friends and family, it will strengthen your other relationships and keep you from feeling alone.




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17.11.2022 20:30:29
StrangeSnow

I hardcore cry it out and then dress myself up with a friend to remind myself that I’m a bad bitch that survived without them before and I can do it again just fine. 

17.11.2022 20:30:29

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